I love being a mummy, don't get me wrong. I love the cuddles and kisses, snuggling in bed in the morning reading books, watching their joy at learning new things and general silliness. But I do miss being "Sam", the biochemist, squash and hockey player, wife and friend always up for a giggle.
Someone recently told me that during a 30min break when her kids were napping, instead of doing the housework, she painted her nails. I know it doesn't sound like much, but that ability to be selfish and take some time for yourself is so admirable when you have kids. So here are some of my ideas for making yourself feel more like a person:
- Put on a pretty dress, even if it's just to potter around the house
- Have a bubbly bath, lock the door behind you and have a glass of something nice to drink
- Go for a walk alone. My favourite thing is having both hands free for a bit!
- Do some gardening. The kids can 'help' relatively easily and you get a lovely sense of satisfaction
- Meet up with friends who don't have children and enjoy some proper adult conversation!
I am now sporting some pretty nails and feeling like me again. Any other ideas I can add to my list would be very appreciated!
You will always be Sam, the chatty young girl, always with lots to tell me about. One reason i love to go on the Explore holidays is because i meet people who see me as Shirley and don't see me as a mother, grandmother or young widow. Wouldn't want to not have my lovely childrwn and geanndchildren in my life though.
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